You might be thinking – make or break you….in what? Answer: In basically anything. Whatever goals you have, be it business or health, yes there are definite traits that will lead you in the winning direction.
In working with hundreds of people who’ve wanted to change their health, or change their business situation – there’s been some definite HUGE neon signs along the way as to the characteristics that we should really build upon and lean into if we want to achieve any kind of goal. They’re not rocket science. They’re simple. Common sense, even. But believe me, not everyone is showing up to the party when it comes to them. Here they are:
Courage: Courage gets you out of the gate. It’s the feeling when you know you need to “go for it” and instead of listening to that little voice that says “what if I fail”, you say screw it and jump in. The common misconception is that to doing something new, or heading towards a goal, is always going to feel “good”. “Good” is all about perception. And for most people the uncomfortable shift and leap into doing something new, doesn’t actually feel “good” at first. It can feel scary. But “good scary”. That’s actually the feeling that you WANT. And that’s where courage comes into play. That’s where you smarty-pants out there will put up your dukes and dive into the fight for something different. That’s courage. And it’s a split second decision most times. But the caution is that it’s equally as split second of a decision to say “nah, Imma stay right here in the same spot and collect dust”. Beware of those split second decisions. Choose courage, over and over again in business and health. It’ll lead to amazing things.
Grit: The cool part of setting a goal or choosing to start something new, is that the second you actually make the decision and pull the trigger – you get pretty fired up! The other side of fear is usually always excitement when it comes to goals. So strange but it’s almost a constant. When you first press go on a goal, you basically feel like you’re driving top down in a convertible on a sunny day with a bad 80’s song playing. Starting is easy. Continuing to give your goals that same flavour and excitement is where GRIT comes into play. Grit is needed when the going gets tough. When the cupcakes arrive in lunchroom after you already swore yourself off sugar for a month. When you get your first NO in business, from someone you would have put money on as a YES. Grit is the stick-to-it-ness that’s needed to push through the not-so-good times.
Grit is your bridge from excitement to excitement.
And the cool part is it almost always pays off. Don’t quit before payday. Don’t quit at the first sign of cupcakes. Check out how good it feels to use your grit to accomplish your next win.
Kindness: It’s a ridiculous fact that this is the most underrated of all of the qualities I’ve talked about. Actually even more strange is that you’d be hard pressed to find a business article that talks about kindness as a must-have in business. Like, seriously – what’s up with that? In my business, kindness is absolutely a virtue. People are attracted to kind people. They trust kind people. You feel better when you’re kind. So this should be a no brainer. If you’re rocking the “me first” attitude in life and business – it’s perhaps time to shift your focus outward and see who you can help in business/life.
These three are the trifecta in my books. Don’t pick and choose. Use them all!